≡ Topic: Confused help please

Confused help please
14.01.2018 by Confusedkk

I scored a 147 and I'm confused with my emotions. I know how to feel, i know when im happy or mad or jealous or stressed. But beyond that I can't explain much. My boyfriend brought it to my attention that i have a problem. When i am feeling angry i usually just want to be by myself and avoid the isssue which is causing more problems which i just want to be by myself more. I just dont know i always thought it was my copeing way. I know i love my boyfriend and dont want him to leave but if he told me he was i also know i would brush it off. I just dont know if alexithymic is the cause or maybe hes right and i just dont care about his emotions.
I dont know what to do??
Do i have alexithymic traits how do I get better?

Have you had any trauma?
16.01.2018 by scarredlightning

From what I've read (someone please correct me if I'm wrong), if you've had some sort of trauma, then alexithymia IS a coping mechanism. Although maybe alexithymia can cause someone not to be able to recognize a trauma as what it truly is. I'm not sure. You might find a lot of people say they just "fake it till you make it" and things like that. I'm not to sure but avoidance really could just be a coping method of yours. Although you do convey emotions but seem to struggle to further describe them, although you have listed some of the more commonly used terms for emotions which could completely invalidate the point of, this IS an alexithymic trait. There are... creatively based therapies available to help with alexithymia, and some people DO find these work, but they are not for everyone. I think if you research you will find a little bit more on treatment, but it is quite limited.

TLSpencer
23.01.2018 by TLSpencer

Dear scarredlightning,

May I ask your date and year of birth?

Why?
27.01.2018 by scarredlightning

I was born in 2001.

TL Spencer
27.01.2018 by scarredlightning

Isn't TL spencer and author??? I think?